eatcakey:

10 Ways to Love Others

 

Some guidelines for loving:

1. Tell them about their brilliance. They likely can’t see it and they don’t know its immensity, but you can see it, and you can illuminate it for them.

2. Be authentic, and give others the gift of the real you and a real relationship. Ask your real questions. Share your real beliefs. Go for your real dreams. Tell your truth.

3. Don’t confuse “authenticity” with sharing every complaint, resentment, or petty reaction in the name of “being yourself.” Meditate, write, or do yoga to work through anxiety, resentment, and stress on your own so you don’t hand off those negative moods to everyone around you. Sure, share sadness, honest dilemmas, and fears, but be mindful: don’t pollute.

4. Listen, listen, listen. Don’t listen to determine if you agree or disagree. Listen to get to know what is true for the person in front of you. Get to know an inner landscape that is different from your own, and enjoy the journey. Remember that if, in any conversation, nothing piqued your curiosity and nothing surprised you, you weren’t really listening.

5. Don’t waste your time or energy thinking about how they need to be different.  Really. Chuck that whole thing. Their habits are their habits. Their personalities are their personalities. Let them be, and work on what you want to change about you—not what you think would be good to change about them.

6. Remember that you don’t have to understand their choices to respect or accept them. 

7. Don’t conflate accepting with being a doormat or betraying yourself. Let them be who they are, entirely. Then, you decide what you need, in light of who they are. Do you need to make a direct request that they change their behavior in some way? Do you need to take care of yourself better? Do you need to set a boundary or to change the relationship? Take care of yourself well, without holding anyone else in contempt.

8. Give of yourself, but never sacrifice or compromise yourself. Stop if resentment is building and retool. Don’t do the martyr thing. It helps no one and nothing.

9. Remember that everyone you encounter was created by divine intelligence and has an important role to play in the universe. Treat them as such.

10. If you want to keep growing emotionally and spiritually for the rest of your life, accept this as your mantra and try to live as if it were true: Everything that I experience from another human being is either love, or a call for love.

What steps do you take to love others?

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theruntoearth:

Tiny windowsill buddha #buddha #buddhism #buddhastatue #minibuddha

theruntoearth:

Tiny windowsill buddha #buddha #buddhism #buddhastatue #minibuddha

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judal-is-my-spirit-animal:

lezly-odair:

How I feel about religion. God should be presented as what he is, love and kindness. Stop using his name to justify your racism, homo phobia and sexesim

Not gonna lie, this is pretty cute. 

judal-is-my-spirit-animal:

lezly-odair:

How I feel about religion. God should be presented as what he is, love and kindness. Stop using his name to justify your racism, homo phobia and sexesim

Not gonna lie, this is pretty cute. 

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recoverykitty:

An interview with Thich Nhat Hanh

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yearningforunity:

Candomble worshippers on the beach during a festival to honor Yemanjá the goddess of the sea, in Salvador, Bahia, Brazil.

yearningforunity:

Candomble worshippers on the beach during a festival to honor Yemanjá the goddess of the sea, in Salvador, Bahia, Brazil.

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silver-y:

aieon:

The National Aeronautics and Space Administration (NASA) released a satellite image of India in the evening during the festive holiday of Diwali, the celebration of lights.
I would just like to wish everyone a very Happy Diwali and I hope that you have a wonderful year full of prosperity, peace, and happiness.

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silver-y:

aieon:

The National Aeronautics and Space Administration (NASA) released a satellite image of India in the evening during the festive holiday of Diwali, the celebration of lights.

I would just like to wish everyone a very Happy Diwali and I hope that you have a wonderful year full of prosperity, peace, and happiness.

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sideentrance:

Women pray in a “female mosque,” ie, their own allotted space at Beijing’s Nuijie Street Mosque, which was built in 996. Kinza Khan submitted these photos and you can read about her experiences attending Friday prayers and meeting Beijing’s Muslims, expatriate and Chinese alike, here.

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thecolorblu:

Vodou_06.JPG by steffiekeith on Flickr.
Via Flickr: Mambo (Haitian word for priestess) Marie Carmel pours Florida water onto Ezili Dantors’ altar at a Vodou ceremony in the Flatbush section of Brooklyn on September 17, 2011. Ezili Dantor, the female warrior Spirit, enjoys bitter cologne and fruits like pineapple and grapefruit.

thecolorblu:

Vodou_06.JPG by steffiekeith on Flickr.

Via Flickr:
Mambo (Haitian word for priestess) Marie Carmel pours Florida water onto Ezili Dantors’ altar at a Vodou ceremony in the Flatbush section of Brooklyn on September 17, 2011. Ezili Dantor, the female warrior Spirit, enjoys bitter cologne and fruits like pineapple and grapefruit.

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